This is the story of Pam and John; she in her early 50’s and John is 62. Pam is a college professor. John taught at a local community college until diagnosed with Parkinson’s in March 2008, then Lewy Body Dementia in April.


Friday, July 18, 2008

simplify, simplify

A couple of years ago I went to the annual gathering of the Thoreau Society when the theme was "Simplify, simplify." They were selling t-shirts that said "What would Thoreau do?" It crystalized my desire to simplify my life, but I haven't made very much progress.

I spent an hour or two today going through boxes of John's mail (a longstanding problem) trying to make sure that we found all of his IRA accounts to roll over into an annuity. I found four old accounts in addition to the current retirement savings account. That all five will be consolidated into one account feels to me like a real achievement in making things simpler. The discouraging thing is seeing how much better our situation would be if he had invested his money differently, but that reflects decisions he made 20 years ago and never revisited, not recent problems. He used to listen to the business news and have strong opinions, but he didn't act on them.

There is one other account that can't be consolidated because it isn't pre-tax money. I asked John what he wanted to do with that account and suggested several options, but he didn't show interest in any of them. It startles me to have him not have an opinion.


Stella said...

An opinion may come in a few days. If you can hold off on making a decision for the item, maybe you should wait. If he doesn't revisit the situation then I suppose it would be best for you to make the decision and move on. He may be quietly studying the options. I know it is hard to be patient but it will be only a short time. You will have an answer, or not.

Spouse said...

Again the actions are so similar !!
30 years ago GW did put $ into IRA accounts. This spring I consolidated 3 into one. At the same time he did also make smaller IRA accounts in my name. I've consolidated them also. At this point he has no thoughts about finances, but says he trusts me to do the right things. I can just hope that he will remember that trust in me for a long time to come !!!
To simplify is good !!!